Word Of The Week - Self-Esteem•
Posted on March 09 2020
Hello gorgeous, how is your self-esteem lately? If you are reading this, it’s time for a self-check-up! After all, how can you create magic if you think you are not worthy of it? The issue with self-esteem is that a lot of people think that they are just fine, that they have healthy self-esteem, but later on in life they discover that their self-esteem hasn’t been as good as they thought it was. So, how do you know whether or not you have healthy self-esteem?
What Does Self-Esteem Mean?
You can’t start figuring out whether you self-esteem is healthy without knowing the meaning of self-esteem. In a way, as the work itself says – self-esteem is how you are esteeming yourself. How much do you think your value is? Are you worthy of happiness? Or do you see other people’s magic, yearn for creating it for yourself, but still you think you are not deserving of it?
Your personal worth depends on how you esteem yourself, and of your inner relations. Are being as understanding to yourself as you are to everyone else or are you being way too harsh towards yourself?
No matter what you are doing at this moment in life, there are positive and negative sides to you, and your situation, like with everyone else. And in the end it’s all about perspective – you can focus on the negatives and lose the sense of healthy self-esteem and self-worth, or you can be more objective, see the good and the bad, accept them, and see your actual worth. Once you do so gorgeous, nothing can stop you from creating your own damn magic!
How To Have Healthy Self-Esteem?
Although it might seem rather easy to regain healthy self-esteem, or develop it for the very first time, it can be tricky because it will feel like you are going against yourself. However, you can’t have progress, or magic in your life if you do the same thing that brought you to this place, and moment in your life. Here are a few tips to work on your self-esteem and create your own damn magic:
Put Yourself On The Spot – Objectively
Do a little exercise – take a piece of paper and write down all of your thoughts that bring your self-worth down. Be completely honest with yourself. Write it all down. Then start one by one with the thoughts you wrote down and be objective about it. Is this thought really true, or are you just repeating it out of habit in your mind? If you are, then write down the opposite of that thought, a positive one that captures the truth. Then every time you think the negative thought, repeat the positive thought 3 times in your mind. Slowly, you will reset your self-esteem diminishing thoughts and adapt a healthier mindset!
Be Kinder To Yourself
If you notice that you are only bringing yourself down, then you have to start treating yourself more kindly, and with more understanding – like you would treat a friend. Praise yourself when you do good, and when you are not, then show understanding instead of burying yourself with self-judgement.
Compare You With Past You
Comparing yourself with others will never bring you any joy, and it won’t help your self-esteem at all. The only person you should be comparing is your past self. Yes, you are an amazing person now, but there is still room to do better when you can, and only through that process of self-improvement instead of constant outwards comparison you will grow and create healthy self-esteem for yourself!