6 Best Books For Strengthening Relationships

Written by Dragana Ivanovska


Posted on February 22 2020

Hello, fellow book lovers!

Are you excited about the newest book list that we have to share with you? Because today we are sharing with you the best relationship improvement books that we have read over the years. The truth is, in today’s modern society, it’s hard to establish a functional relationship with a partner, and when you do establish it, it gets harder and harder to keep it alive. However, even with the crazy pace of life that we all lead, you can create the magical relationship from your dreams with your loved one, and here are a few books to set you on the right path:

1. The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship by Miguel Ruiz

This book focuses on romantic relationships and stories and metaphors allow us to see a new, more realistic perspective on our overall relationship. I really enjoyed reading it since it has a soft tone and it contains a landmine of wisdom. For example, Mister Ruiz explains how important it is to love yourself and to be happy with yourself so you can have a profound romantic relationship.

And in reality, it’s true. No matter how much love can you give to your partner, if you don’t love yourself your relationship won’t work simply because on a subconscious level you believe you don’t deserve to be loved. Mister Ruiz uses the three teachings of the Toltec – Awareness, Transformation, and Love to show us that our fears and misplaced expectations can only do harm to our relationships. It was such a great book to read, true to the point and emotionally and thought challenging.

Nothing that your partner does is personal. Your partner is dealing with her own garbage. If you don't take it personally, it will be so easy for you to have a wonderful relationship with your partner

Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship --Toltec Wisdom Book

2. Mindful Relationship Habits by S.J. Scott

If you feel like in the everyday madness you made time for everything except for your relationship, and somehow you and your partner are drifting apart, then this is the book to pick up. Of course, this is not a quick fix to re-establish closeness but rather, a day to day habits to adapt so that you always make time for your partner. An amazing book with so many tips, habits, and techniques to make your relationship with your partner stronger and better.

Praise your partner in public. Have you ever been out with another couple, and one partner criticizes or diminishes the other in front of you? Everyone laughs awkwardly and tries to move on, but you can see the hurt and betrayal in the wounded partner’s eyes. When partners cherish one another, they not only avoid demeaning each other in public, but rather they find ways to give praise. You want others to see the best qualities in your partner, and you make a point to offer words of affirmation and appreciative looks to your significant other in front of everyone.

S.J. Scott, Mindful Relationship Habits: 25 Practices for Couples to Enhance Intimacy, Nurture Closeness, and Grow a Deeper Connection

3. I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen

Sometimes, in relationships, the issue isn’t in you or your partner, or how you treat yourself, but rather in the way you talk to each other. And more importantly – of how much you listen to your partner. Do you listen to a reply, or do you listen to understand? This amazing book holds so many tips, on how to express yourself, and allow your partner to express himself more clearly.

Ignoring, dismissing, or suppressing your emotions doesn’t get rid of them; it buries them. It tucks them away to fester and arise again at a later time. When you recognize and validate your emotions instead, you strip away the judgment—the “I’m bad,” “this is wrong,” or “I shouldn’t” responses—and allow your experiences to flow through you. It helps you quell the inner critic and live a more present and enjoyable life.

Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships

4. How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo

If you find yourself in a relationship in which you are constantly judging your partner, then boy is this the book for you. Now don’t worry, we all get caught up in judging our partners harshly, however that’s not a very healthy way to move forward in a relationship. In this book, you will learn all about the 5A’s: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection and Allowing To Be As You Are that will help you to improve your relationship immensely!

We don’t fear physical closeness because we fear proximity itself. Most of us earnestly want physical contact with those who love us. Rather we fear what we will feel when we get too close. The real fear, then, is of ourselves. This fear is not something to rebuke ourselves for. It is our deepest vulnerability, the very quality that makes us most lovable.

David Richo, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

5. Relationships by The School of Life

One of the most common misconceptions that we have is that love comes intuitively to everyone. However, this amazing book looks at love from another perspective. What if love doesn’t come intuitively, and building a relationship is much like everything in life, a skill that we can learn? We loved this one because it addresses a lot of the things that happen on a deeper level, inside us, and also things that might be going around on a deeper level with your partner, that you are just not understanding. It’s an amazing read! We learned so much from this one, and we hope you will too!

Two people should see a relationship as a constant opportunity to improve and be improved. When lovers teach each other uncomfortable truths, they are not giving up on love. They are trying to do something very true to love: which is to make their partners more loveable.

The School of Life, Relationships

6. Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts by Thich Nhat Hanh

This is one of those books that is completely direct and honest, and it’s such a beautiful read that we bet you will find yourself re-reading this one a lot! Almost every chapter and sentence in it, have so much to teach, that this truly makes it one of those rare gem books that you find yourself reading over and over, and each time you find yourself learning something new in the same book. It’s an amazing read! Definitely pick this one up!

TRUE LOVE MAKES US HAPPY. If love doesn’t make us happy, it’s not love; it’s something else. Love is a wonderful thing. It gives us the ability to offer joy and happiness, relieve suffering, and transcend all kinds of separation and barriers.

Thich Nhat Hanh, Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts

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