Why the Universe Doesn’t Care If You’re a “Good Person”

For so much of my life, I carried the weight of being “good.” I worried about making the right choices for everyone, ensuring no one got hurt, and being the friend, partner, or person others needed me to be. But here’s what I’ve learned: the universe doesn’t care if you’re a “good person.” It doesn’t keep a tally of your sacrifices or measure how much of yourself you’ve given away. The universe operates on energy and alignment—not morality.

Before you gasp, let me clarify. This isn’t permission to become selfish or inconsiderate. It’s an invitation to let go of the pressure to appease everyone at the expense of your happiness and growth. When you prioritize yourself, set boundaries, and choose authenticity, you’re not only honoring your path but also allowing others to do the same.

The Weight of Being “Good”

Society teaches us to be selfless, to put others first, and to avoid rocking the boat. While these traits can be admirable, they often come with a heavy cost. How many times have you stayed in a relationship that drained you because you didn’t want to hurt the other person? How often have you silenced your needs to avoid conflict? Or said “yes” when your entire being screamed “no”?

Striving to be “good” can lead to:

• Staying in unfulfilling situations out of guilt.

• Overextending yourself to meet others’ expectations.

• Sacrificing your happiness to maintain peace.

Here’s the truth: the universe isn’t rewarding your self-sacrifice. It’s waiting for you to choose yourself, to align with what feels true and right for you—because that’s where the magic happens.

The Universe’s Perspective

The universe doesn’t deal in binaries of good and bad. It’s not keeping score of how often you’ve been nice or selfless. Instead, it responds to your energy and intentions. Are you aligned with your truth? Are you growing, evolving, and stepping into your authentic self? That’s what matters.

Think of it like the weather. If it’s raining, it’s not because you’re a “bad” person—it’s just rain. The same applies to life’s challenges and opportunities. The universe is constantly presenting lessons and energy shifts to guide you toward alignment. Whether you learn, grow, or resist is entirely up to you.

Why Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean disregarding others. It means honoring your needs, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your well-being. When you do this, you show up as a more authentic, loving version of yourself. You’re no longer operating from a place of resentment or depletion.

Here’s why it’s not selfish:

• You set an example: When you prioritize your happiness, you inspire others to do the same.

• You create healthier relationships: Boundaries foster respect and mutual understanding.

• You align with your purpose: By choosing authenticity, you step closer to the life the universe has in store for you.

The people who genuinely care about you will respect your choices. And those who don’t? They’re probably not aligned with your path anyway.

Reclaiming Your Power

Letting go of the need to be “good” can feel liberating and terrifying. But it’s also an opportunity to reclaim your power. Here are some ways to start:

1. Journaling Prompts

• What areas of my life feel out of alignment?

• When have I prioritized others’ happiness over my own?

• What would choosing myself look like?

2. Boundary-Setting Exercise

Write down one situation where you need a boundary. Then, script how you’d communicate it with love and clarity. For example:

• Boundary: I need more time for myself on weekends.

• Script: “I love spending time with you, but I’ve realized I need weekends to recharge. Can we plan something for next week instead?”

3. Affirmations

• “I am worthy of choosing myself.”

• “My happiness matters.”

• “I trust the universe to guide me toward alignment.”

Final Thoughts

Magic Maker, the universe isn’t asking you to be a perfect friend, partner, or person. It’s asking you to be real. To trust that prioritizing your growth, happiness, and authenticity isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. When you align with your truth, you create ripples that inspire others to do the same.

So, let go of the need to be “good” in the eyes of others. Instead, focus on being true to yourself. That’s where the real magic lies.