Why Love Spells Won’t Fix Your Relationship—Manifest Healthy Love Instead

Why Love Spells Won’t Fix Your Relationship—Try These Love Manifestation Tips Instead

Let’s talk about something I’ve noticed in the shop and all over social media—love magic. People come in searching for a spell, a ritual, a potion to make someone love them more, come back after a breakup, or finally see their worth. And listen, I get it. Feelings are real. Love is intense. But the truth is, you don’t need a love spell to make someone stay—you need to remember your own magic.

The Problem with “Make Them Love Me” Magic

Love magic done with the intention of forcing or manipulating someone else’s emotions walks a fine line—it nudges dangerously close to taking away another person’s free will. And that’s not just bad karma; it also keeps you stuck in an unhealthy dynamic.

When we chase love that isn’t flowing naturally, we’re telling the universe: I don’t trust that I’m worthy of a love that comes to me effortlessly. The more we hold on, the more we block what we truly deserve.

Are You Trying to Convince Someone to See Your Worth?

Think of your energy, attention, and love as a luxury item—a handbag you’ve decided to sell online for $100. Someone messages you and offers $50. You know it’s worth $100. You barely used it. Are you going to beg them to increase their offer? Are you going to lower your value just because that’s all they’re willing to pay? Or are you going to wait for someone who sees its true worth?

This is the same energy you bring to relationships. When you know your worth, you don’t convince. You don’t beg. You don’t lower your price. You communicate your needs, observe how they respond, and let their actions show you where you stand. If they don’t align, it’s not personal—it’s a disconnect. And that’s okay.

So instead of trying to magically shift someone else’s feelings, the real magic is looking inward. Why do you feel the need to prove your worth? Why are you staying in a situation where your value isn’t being recognized? These are the questions that lead to transformation.

The Magic of Letting Go & Manifesting the Love You Deserve

Real love magic isn’t about pulling someone closer who doesn’t see you—it’s about aligning yourself with the love that’s already meant for you. Instead of doing a “Make Them Love Me” spell, try one of these powerful rituals:

Cord-Cutting Ritual – Release unhealthy emotional ties that keep you stuck. Tie two candles together, noting which one represents you and which represents your partner. Light both candles and do this meditation with the intention: I release what no longer serves me. I call in love that aligns with my highest good. Check out our A Little Clean Break Kit here.

Love Bath Ritual – Use herbs and oils like rose petals, Himalayan salt, and lavender to cleanse old energy and reconnect with your heart. Try our Love Bath Ritual or our Love Spell Mix with the intention of clearing anything in your path to the love you were destined for. 

Self-Love Magnet Kit – If you’re serious about attracting real love, start with you. Strengthen your self-worth, confidence, and inner glow, so the love you seek naturally flows to you. See it here.

Pro tip: When you stop trying to force love and start embodying your own magic, watch how fast your energy shifts—and how effortlessly love finds its way to you.

Set Yourself Free

I know letting go is hard. Love is deep, layered, and often tangled in history and emotion. But holding onto something that dims your light? That keeps you stuck? That’s not love—it’s attachment.

When you release what isn’t serving you, you don’t just free yourself—you free the other person, too. You give them the space to step up or step away. And in doing so, you open the door for a love that meets you at your level—no convincing, no proving, just alignment.

So take a deep breath. Take a step back. Take care of yourself. Let them figure it out. You don’t need to control it. The universe already has something better lined up for you. 

Have you ever let go of something only to realize later it was the best decision for your growth? Share your thoughts in the comments! And if this resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe for more magical insights on love, self-worth, and manifestation.