Book Of The Week - I'm Fine And Other Lies by Whitney Cummings

Written by Dragana Ivanovska


Posted on October 29 2020

Hello, fellow bookworms!

Ready to dive deep into another reading adventure? This week, I am sharing with you one of my personal favorite books of the year, and it’s such a good read that I even got our founder, Shereen Campbell hooked on it!

This week I am sharing with you a book that I picked up to cheer me up, and in the end, helped me were more than a dozen self-help books before it couldn’t. I’m talking about  “I'm Fine And Other Lies” by Whitney Cummings.

Why is I'm Fine And Other Lies by Whitney Cummings an amazing book to read?

Well, as I said, I picked this book up because I needed some light reading after binge-reading a bunch of self-help books that just didn’t help me help myself. I was ready to give myself a break, and have a good laugh – and I did, but among the laughs, I also got a breakthrough, and somehow I learned how to help myself more with this book than the dozen before it.

If you didn’t know already, Whitney Cummings is a stand-up comedian, and her shows and jokes are so well-thought-of that they always have me laughing with tears. This is why I was expecting a very funny book, with not that much content – especially since the very first impression I had of Whitney is that she is this gorgeous, smart woman that didn’t have a struggle in the world. I was very mistaken.

When someone isn't talking, my brain tends to fill in the blanks with how I feel about myself.

Whitney Cummings, I'm Fine...and Other Lies

In her amazing book, Whitney opens up about all the issues she faced as she grew up: anorexia, codependency, low self-worth & self-confidence, beating herself up constantly, freezing her egg cells, her breast corrective surgery, her chronic headaches and migraines she endured for years because she was used to “sucking it up”, and a few dating mishaps that taught her a lot about life.

Overall, I wasn’t disappointed with the expectance of humor in this book – after all, that is her specialty, but I found so much more. I learned that a lot of people struggle and suffer silently, that we know nothing about because I would have never, ever thought that Cummings struggled so much by the way she carries herself so well today.

Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” by Iyanla Vanzant. That quote hit me right in the solar plexus. If comparison is a form of violence against yourself, me, myself and I were in a nuclear war.

Whitney Cummings, I'm Fine...and Other Lies

As she spoke about all the things she was so ashamed to admit, sharing her wildest and most embarrassing stories, she didn’t just fuel the old patterns that told her she should beat herself up about all the embarrassing things that happened to her – on the contrary, she showed how much she has grown through this book by sort of sharing her self-reflection.

And it really amazing to see that a person with so many struggles in life actually rewired herself, did the work on herself, and created a better more magical version of herself.

I learned that the engine of codependent, self-abusive, maladaptive, and addictive behaviors is exactly that. Shame. But shame can be mitigated or released in a shockingly simple way: by talking about it.

Whitney Cummings, I'm Fine...and Other Lies

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